Reminders from one Millennial to another

After a little tear-saturated, podcast-fuelled conversation with my Mom last night, I thought it best to remind all of my Millennial pals of some things you might have forgotten.

Nobody has their shit sorted out.  

You’re not the only one who doesn’t know what they’re doing and that’s okay.  The pressure to figure out what you’re doing feels heavy, but everyone feels it, and we all question if we’re doing the right thing.

Delete Instagram or whatever else makes you feel inadequate.

Social media acts as a very narrow lens that allows users to control how others perceive them.  Don’t compare yourself against what you see of others- the likelihood that they’re drinking cosmos downtown nightly is next to zero.  We all go home and make frozen pizza.

Everything changes all the time.

How to define ‘Success’ is your choice, but however you frame it, it comes in like the tide.  The way you feel about how you’re doing is sometimes really high and other times it’s low and either way, it’s hard to control.

You’re doing fine.

It’s okay to feel however you want to feel.

Some days are awesome days.  When they are, say it out loud.  Sometimes we feel nervous or pressured or guilty, and that’s okay too.  My friend Grace reminds me often that it’s okay to feel however you’re feeling, and it’s not right for other people to shush you into not talking about it.  Be there for people when they’re feeling that way and remind them that it’s okay to feel doubtful.

Not every decision that you make or don’t make will have massive impacts on your life.

Opportunities are all over the place.

Be brave, take ones that you think you can handle, step outside of ‘comfortable’, and take risks.

Recognize and acknowledge when you are happy.

There is no shame in feeling good, and it feels great to remind yourself when you’re feeling on top of it.

Everyone is in the same boat as you, even people who look like they know what they’re doing.

If they look like they’ve got it all together, they’re probably lying.

Your body is everything.

Everyone loves a good bender, but remember that your health is the most important thing you have.  Be good to your body- eat good food, sleep when you can, take baths…